{"id":60,"date":"2013-05-10T12:09:00","date_gmt":"2013-05-10T12:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lidaprypchan.org\/?p=60"},"modified":"2015-06-26T19:44:58","modified_gmt":"2015-06-26T19:44:58","slug":"the-feeling-of-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lidaprypchan.org\/?p=60","title":{"rendered":"The Feeling of Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By Lida Prypchan<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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There will always be someone who writes about civilization, who criticizes it, who calls it the “Present Shakiness” as J.F. Baena Reyes, who, in his column Lipstick, branded the world in which we move about as a “viscous quagmire of confusion.” \u00a0And not without good reason. \u00a0We are in the era of neurosis, hurried to get who knows where. \u00a0Of those who populate the world, Reyes Baena says there are those who enjoy an exquisite pleasure in sadistically provoking the pain of others. \u00a0Others aspire to wash their guilt in the savory contentment of personal suffering.<\/span><\/div>\n
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These words, in one form or another, made me think of a game in which all take part: the game of culpability.<\/span><\/div>\n
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This game has existed since the world began. \u00a0It is as old as worry and depression. Who escapes their worries?<\/span><\/div>\n
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What changed regarding our generation is that now in any bookshop we find books like “Overcome Depression in 15 Days” with Royal cake type recipes they call “bold techniques.”<\/span><\/div>\n
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The feeling of guilt is an emotion that immobilizes us in the present moment for something we did in the past. \u00a0And feeling ourselves guilty we deceive ourselves, thinking that we pay for our mistake. \u00a0It is one thing is to learn from the past and another to mortify ourselves with something that happened and cannot be undone. \u00a0There is a very wise saying about it that says, “It is not the experience of today that drive men crazy. \u00a0It is the remorse for something that happened yesterday and the fear of what tomorrow may bring us. ” \u00a0The past and the future are what we really worry about, and meanwhile we lose the present, thinking of the other two times.<\/span><\/div>\n
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What happens with this emotion is that it seems we carry it in our blood because, from the time we are small, they give us guilt with our applesauce, and then when we become adults we give our children the same dose of guilt that we were given.<\/span><\/div>\n
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For the young, I will not end this article with the skepticism with which Baena Reyes concludes his own. \u00a0Reyes ended thus: \u201cIt is not time to gargle with words that will find no resonance in the consciousness already experienced among the people.” \u00a0I do not necessarily seek changes; all I want is that anyone who is self-absorbed, and who identifies him\/herself with any of the examples that I will give below, to change, if they so desire, his\/her attitude.<\/span><\/div>\n
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What are the origins of guilt?<\/span><\/div>\n
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From when we are children we are manipulated with guilt, whether it be by our parents, siblings, teachers, religion, the state or society.<\/span><\/div>\n
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One of the most typical causative dialogues for one\u2019s guilt it that of a child with its mother. \u00a0The mother asked her daughter to bring up the chairs from the basement because they are going to eat. \u00a0The daughter is watching a program on the TV and tells her to wait for the ads to come on. \u00a0The mother tells her that it does not matter and, even if it greatly hurts her back, she herself will go for the chairs. \u00a0 \u00a0The daughter imagines her mother with six chairs on her back, falling down the stairs. \u00a0Then she runs and does what her mom asked. \u00a0Otherwise she will be responsible for her mother having fallen.<\/span><\/div>\n
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It is very efficient type of mentality, “I sacrifice for you.\u201d \u00a0Some mothers remind their children of their labor pains: “I had eighteen hours straight just to bring you into this world.” \u00a0Another phrase is: “I only stayed married to your father for you.” \u00a0The child feels guilty for his\/her mother’s unhappiness.<\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 By Lida Prypchan \u00a0 There will always be someone who writes about civilization, who criticizes it, who calls it the “Present Shakiness” as J.F. Baena Reyes, who, in his column Lipstick, branded the world in which we move about as a “viscous quagmire of confusion.” \u00a0And not without good reason. \u00a0We are in the … <\/p>\n

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